In my past two posts I've cover 1-20 of the 25 Ways to Communicate Respect to your husband. While I don't agree with all of them there are some I could work on. These ones I'm rolling into "Husband Appreciation Week" or "HAW." So before I unveil my plans for HAW let's finish up the list.
21. Admire Him - Ryan is incredibly smart and he's chasing his dreams. While I'm not admiring him 24/7 I do think about all the things he's done and he plans on accomplishing. He's pretty amazing and I'm really glad he's mine. This might be something to work on - at least letting him know.
22. Protect His Name - I read somewhere else that you should never complain about your husband because it leads to discontent and allows others to input comments on how it should be better. I definitely bitch about Ryan sometimes. I could work on this a lot.
23. Forgive His Shortcomings - If there is one person I do not hold a grudge against, it's Ryan. Believe me, I can hold a grudge for a LONG, LONG time. But against my husband? Never. I may be a little bitter that I'm the only one with a steady job, but Ryan's doing really well at school and he's focusing on that (I just need to remind myself that in 3-4 years he'll have a fantastic job and we won't have to struggle anymore).
24. Don't Argue - THIS is impossible. And I think it's unrealistic. In any marriage or relationship there are bound to be differences. With stubborn, intelligent, opinionated people you're going to argue and have fights. I do admit that you should pick your battles but to never have an argument is just admitting you're either 1. lying to yourself, 2. a complete pushover who doesn't stand for what they believe, or 3. a true follower with no personal convictions.
25. Follow His Lead - Ryan is much more at peace not making decisions. I always ask his opinion which for the most part he's impartial. When he does have an opinion or makes a decision I know it's important so I typically let him run with it. I don't think one person has to lead all the time. As long as we make the decisions together (whether or not the other cares) is the important thing.
And that's it! So here's how I came in:
12 I need to work on (to be incorporated into "HAW")
8 Already I'm doing (feel confident I do these daily)
5 Are a little ridiculous (and most likely won't be incorporated into "HAW")
Now for the unveiling of Husband Appreciation Week, which I was going to start this week, but I think I'
ll start this weekend.
How anyone could look at that face and not smile is beyond me. He's just too cute! One of the big things I've been wanting to do for him is finish the dresser my parents let us have. I picked out a fantastic color that matches our room decor and added some silver accents. I just have to add a clear top coat and get some awesome knobs. Ryan helped a little with the sanding (I didn't ask - which is even better!) but is really excited to be moving out of the white plastic drawers he has now and into a much bigger and solid wood dresser. So here are my plans for this weekend through next week starting with Friday evening.
Overall - Number 1 no nagging. I am going to do my best with this one. I'm going to try and be calm whenever I feel like I'm about to get upset and instead put a smile on my face and tell Ryan that I love him.
Friday - I'm going to download the seasons of Criminal Minds, make some popcorn, and veg with Ryan. With some wine and beer it'll be a perfect stay-at-home-and-cuddle kind of evening.
Saturday - As always we'll hit up the Troy Farmer's Market for some fresh croissants then head over to the Capital District Community Garden's Fall Plant Sale. It's just up the road and there might be some great finds. Then we're off to Pearl Palooza 2012! With amazing bands playing from noon until 9pm we'll be pretty beat by the end of it. It shall be a fantastic day.
Sunday - To start the day off I'll make some belgian waffles around 10am when Ryan gets hungry. And since we have so many tomatoes and green peppers in the freezer, I think it'd be a perfect opportunity for us to cook together. Between some red sauce and some baking ideas I want to try, I'll keep Ryan busy, entertained, and full! I think we might also brew (beer, again) as the next mix is set to arrive sometime this week.
Monday - Starting today I'm going to write loves notes on the white board in the kitchen. I'm not sure if he'll notice them. If he doesn't on Monday, I'll drop the notes in his lunch bag on Tuesday. Also we decided to start P90X up again. I know this doesn't seem like appreciation but he'll appreciate the motivation to stay active and healthy. Trust me!
Tuesday - Since I'll be working from home I'm going to make Ryan's lunch for him. I'll include extra snacks and some puzzles to keep his mind working all day. For dinner, I think I'm going to make pot roast and include some mashed potatoes and dressing. I'll double check with Ryan - I'm not sure if he's saving the roast for something else.
Wednesday - Ryan doesn't have school because of Yom Kippur. I'll be sure to text him during the day to make sure he's not too lonely. He complains that I never text him enough - I'll be sure to blow up his phone this day.
Thursday - It's my birthday! I'll be turning 25 and after a long day at work and school (for Ryan) we'll do some extra exercises after P90X to finish the day off right. ;-)
Friday - It's the last Friday of the month so that means Troy's Night Out. All the shops on River Street stay open until 9pm which is great for those who don't work in downtown Troy. It'll be a nice night to visit the shops and just walk around and talk.
I'll put up some posts about how HAW goes as it happens. Stay tuned! Let me know if you're planning something for your hubby or partner. I'd love to get more ideas.
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